Recently I was having a discussion about attraction and body image and basically how no one should feel bad for not being attracted to someone, something that is increasingly common in our culture.  I think it’s more common for women than men, the idea that we should be able to look past the outside and see the inside and fall in love that way or we’re horrible people.  I won’t get into that too much except to say dating someone you like but are not attracted to is a fucking disaster and wanting to be with someone you find attractive isn’t shallow, it just makes sense.  There is a compliment to this, something I experience sometimes.  I call it Kim Kardashian but you may call it something else.  It’s the idea that maybe we shouldn’t find someone attractive because of what’s on the inside.  Now I don’t know Kim Kardashian and while I have indeed seen a few episodes of Keeping up with the Kardashians it isn’t like we really have a window into her soul, we can only see what we see.  And from what I have seen she appears to be a truly terrible human being.  I think this is a pretty popular opinion and while I am sure she has her defenders at least in my circles I don’t know any.  Which is why I feel like there must be something wrong with me for finding her so physically appealing, like I should be more evolved or somehow whatever chemical reaction that courses through me and makes me want someone should stop because she is objectionable intellectually.  Thing is though the loins want what they want and we should all be ok with that.  I won’t get into the idea of girls dating jerks or nice guys or anything like that because it’s mainly all bullshit, that said if you are dating someone who treats you like shit you might want to rethink it but there is a big gap between that and going, “Hey, that guy is hot” or “That girl looks amazing”.  And you should never feel bad about finding something visually pleasing.  You still will though.  Just remind yourself it’s ok when you are saying to yourself, “Today I want to fuck Kim Kardashian”.